People often say that they are willing to move mountains for
love. Being in a long distance relationship (LDR) will cause you to consider
the literal implications of this statement. The 1463km distance between me and
my boyfriend has seen me Googling the theology department at Stellenbosch,
browsing job adds or spending the evening with an illegal amount of chocolate,
feeling sorry for myself and being irritated that the stupid lyrics ‘Tussen
jou en my, lê daar ‘n berg, lê daar ‘n berg – Tafelberg’ is stuck in my head.
Again.
Yes, LDR’s suck sometimes. But for the past 7 months I have
had the most amazing time with the most incredible boyfriend. To the cynics and
naysayers: we made it! To the supporters and positive friends: thank you! I
guess the corny picture quotes are true: distance is not for the fearful; it's
for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in
exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those who know a
good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough.
Many long-distance relationships may be doomed. It’s not
easy. But it’s worth taking a chance at happily ever after if you are willing
to rely on these not-so-secret keys: trust and communication.
You also need an agreeable bank manager, loads of airtime and faith.
I have great news, our long distance relationship will
change to a short-distance relationship on the 1st of June. Instead
of moving mountains, my boyfriend is moving to Johannesburg . Yeah!
I thought I would share some lessons learnt, some of the ups
and downs, and some tips if you are considering a LDR or are currently in one.
